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At A Complete Loss (Not Financial)

August 4th, 2014 at 12:52 am

My father passed away at 1235 this morning. He suffered so terribly in the last week of his life, then felt as though he had lost his dignity as his two daughters had to clean him after toileting etc. He wasn't able to do anything himself in the end. It was so terribly sad and just horrible.
He did smile up to the end, he was always a happy person, with not a bad word to say about anyone.

I've prayed and prayed this week that the Lord would take him. Daddy kept telling me he just wanted to go home, someone take me home. I told him he was home but he said he wanted to go to my mothers home that he missed her terribly. They were married 50 years when she passed away last October. I believe they are now reunited.

After being a caregiver for my parents for the last two years without hardly ever going to my home much at all I feel completely lost and sad and just feel such a void. I miss them both dearly and am not taking any of this well. I know they are in a better place, and I wouldn't want them here suffering but I just feel such a void and so lost. Please continue prayers for me, I need them now more than ever.

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32 Responses to “At A Complete Loss (Not Financial)”

  1. Carol Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:05 am 1407114338
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    I am sorry for your loss. Give yourself time; you are too newly bereaved. It is hard to have to do such intimate things for our parents and such intimate caretaking makes the void more real. I hope you eventually get to a more peaceful place.(It took me about a year to be more back to my normal self.)

  2. Amber Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:30 am 1407115853
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    Aw I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for you

  3. NJDebbie Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:31 am 1407115865
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    ((HUGS)) May he rest in peace. Take care of yourself.

  4. Wink Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:31 am 1407115907
    1407115907

    I am so sorry. My prayers are with you.

  5. frugalredhead Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:42 am 1407116556
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    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family in this difficult time Frown

  6. Bluebird Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:48 am 1407116885
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    I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. Saying prayers for you. {{Hugs}}

  7. Jenn Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:49 am 1407116946
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    I'm so sorry. It's tough and the grieving does take time. I would suggest to find something forward-looking to focus upon and work toward.

    I've lost (only) one parent and for a year or two, I remember having moments that I looked forward to sharing with my mom, only to remind myself that I couldn't do that anymore. And then it felt like the finality of her death would hit me again.

    Take care of yourself. You will find meaningful activities to take the place of your caregiver duties. I'm sure you do feel a void now - both from the loss of those so close to you and the complete disruption of your normal schedule.

    My prayers are with you.

  8. laura Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 02:21 am 1407118917
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    Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. No doubt your dad is lovingly reunited with your mom in the arms of Our Savior. Prayers to for and yours right now. We will be thinking about you during the next difficult days. (hugs)

  9. snafu Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 02:33 am 1407119628
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    Condolences, it's so difficult to lose a beloved parent. You'd mentioned his last weeks were difficult so the one saving grace is that his suffering has ended and he's in a better place. With bereavement so new we send our wish for you to manage hour by hour at such a sad time.

  10. Beawealthywarrior Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 02:51 am 1407120704
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    Sorry for your lost..may God provide you and your family with comfort.

  11. PNW Mom Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 03:37 am 1407123451
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    So sorry for your loss....praying for peace and comfort for your and your family.

  12. scottish girl Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 03:55 am 1407124524
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  14. Petunia 100 Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 04:13 am 1407125607
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    Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. Frown

  15. Kiki Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 04:19 am 1407125986
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    I am so sorry for your loss.

  16. creditcardfree Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 12:58 pm 1407157080
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    ((Hugs)) So so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful gift to have been able to care for your parents in their final days. May you find comfort in the wonderful memories you had with both of your parents. I will pray for you.

  17. CB in the City Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:25 pm 1407158732
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    I am so sorry. This is such a difficult time. I hope you find comfort in your memories and the knowledge that you were there with him till the end, no matter how hard it was for both of you.

  18. Mich Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 01:56 pm 1407160603
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    My sincere condolences to you and yours

  19. scfr Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 02:21 pm 1407162110
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    “It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.”
    ― Lemony Snicket, Horseradish

    So very sorry for your loss.

  20. Miz Pat Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 03:02 pm 1407164577
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    I am sorry for your loss. God be with you.

  21. doingitallwrong Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 03:55 pm 1407167742
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    So sorry for your loss...

  22. MonkeyMama Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 07:54 pm 1407182091
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    Maranatha, I am very sorry for your loss.

  23. Maranatha Says:
    August 4th, 2014 at 09:15 pm 1407186906
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    Thank you all, I guess it's just still all so new and after an almost 2 year ordeal it will take a bit of time to heal.

  24. rob62521 Says:
    August 5th, 2014 at 12:07 am 1407197238
    1407197238

    Sorry for your loss. I'm sure it is a void, but it takes a few days for your to get things to a new normal. God bless you for being so dependable for your parents.

  25. PatientSaver Says:
    August 5th, 2014 at 01:05 am 1407200727
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    I am so sorry....it is something many of us will face, and it can't be easy.

  26. PatientSaver Says:
    August 5th, 2014 at 01:10 am 1407201043
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    Big hug.

  27. LuckyRobin Says:
    August 6th, 2014 at 06:55 am 1407308110
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    I am so sorry for your loss. It is a very loose ends feeling to lose a parent, especially if you are their caregiver. For the last two years I keep catching myself wanting to tell Dad something, but I can't. I imagine it is more so to have them both gone. It's almost like you aren't entirely sure of where your place is anymore, because it has been so devoted for so long to that one thing. Hang in there.

  28. Looking Forward Says:
    August 7th, 2014 at 06:44 am 1407393896
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    ((HUGS))
    I am sure he is with your mother now, and they are happy.

  29. wowitsawonderfullife Says:
    August 8th, 2014 at 09:49 pm 1407534583
    1407534583

    You are in my prayers.

  30. scfr Says:
    August 9th, 2014 at 08:54 pm 1407617689
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    Just wondering how you are doing ...

  31. FrugalTexan75 Says:
    August 10th, 2014 at 02:17 am 1407637067
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    I am sorry for your loss Frown {{hugs}}

  32. terri77 Says:
    August 16th, 2014 at 05:56 pm 1408211768
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    I am sorry for your loss. Praying for you & your family.

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